- ½ box brown rice spaghetti
- 1 tablespoon olive oil
- 3 cloves garlic, minced
- 1 shallot, diced
- ¼ teaspoon red pepper flakes
- 1 cup crushed tomatoes
- ⅓ cup white wine
- ½ teaspoon salt
- ¼ teaspoon pepper
- ½ pound shrimp, raw and peeled
- 4 lacinato kale leaves, chopped
- 1 zucchini, spiralized or julienned
- ½ cup cannellini beans
- boiling water - cook for 11 min
- 1 tablespoon parsley, diced
- parmesan cheese, grated
- lemon slices
- Fill a large pot with about 3 quarts of water. Bring your water to a boil over high heat. Once boiling, add in noodles and continue to boil for 10-11 minutes. Then take off heat, drain, and set your noodles aside.
- Meanwhile heat a large casserole pan or skillet over medium heat. Add in olive oil, minced garlic, and shallot to the pan and sauté for 30 seconds.
- Add in red pepper flakes, crushed tomatoes, white wine, salt, and pepper - stir. Continue to heat over medium heat until the liquid reduces by ⅓.
- Reduce the heat to med-low and add in your shrimp, chopped kale, and spiralized zucchini. Cook for 3-4 minutes, stirring occasionally.
- After 3-4 minutes, add in cannellini beans and reduce the heat to low. Cover and cook for 5 minutes.
- After 5 minutes, add in your brown rice noodles and toss until everything is coated in sauce. Cook for another couple of minutes.
- Divide your pasta into 2-4 bowls. Top with parsley, parmesan cheese, and lemon slices.
- EAT UP.
I’m sitting here watching This Is Us and crying, but not because it’s sad – even though *spoiler alert* it is sad. And I’m not crying because my privileged life is particularly tough at this moment, because *spoiler alert* it’s not. I’m crying because there are days when I wake up and the sky is grey and an inexplicable malaise washes over me. Sometimes I think I might never want to get out of bed again. (I always do, it just takes some time and convincing.)
Sadness is sometimes unexplainable, but it is always valid. Your feelings are always valid, even if they make no sense. Winter is a trigger for me, the grayer it is the darker my mind gets. For others, there is a sadness that will rise without warning and engulf your world. It doesn’t matter how “good” your life is, there are times when sadness wants to live. Happiness is hard. Happiness has to be fought for.
So here are some self care tips for the darker days in life. Dark days exist, and they can surprise you. And there’s no shame in that. I think it’s a basic human fact. So it’s better to be prepared for when those days when they do pop up.
- Let yourself off the hook. Give yourself 1 hour, 30 minutes, or even just 5 minutes to cry like crazy or sit comatose in your bed. Don’t feel guilty about it and relish in it. Feel it all. The feeling won’t last forever, even if it feels like it will.
- Get yourself out of bed and eat something green. I don’t mean green skittles. I mean eat something good for you even if all you want is carbs and sugar. Make yourself some White Bean and Shrimp Linguine (I mean, it only takes 30 mins!) But if you can’t even imagine making something for yourself, order yourself a salad. Just do it. These are the day when Postmates is worth it.
- Force yourself to exercise. Even if it’s just a long walk – the fresh air will be good for your soul. Or if you’re like me and you need to book a class in order to force yourself to go, do that. Just do it.
- Talk to someone. If you have a wise friend – great. If you have a loving parent – even better. But the best option is to have a therapist to call. I know that therapy is a scary word to most. But if you simply think about it as an non biased person who cares about you and can offer perspective and guidance – well then, I think everyone deserves one of those kinds of people in their life. Consider it.
- Remind yourself that everything will pass. Don’t judge this day. It’s one day in your story, not the whole story.
Your dark days are all apart of being human. And if you’re asking me, I think they help make happiness worth feeling. So please know that you are not alone. And my heart is with yours. xoxo